What questions are we asking ourselves?

I’ve been reading a book called “Awaken the Giant Within” by Anthony Robbins, a well known author from the United States (almost as famous for his booming gravelly voice as for his inspirational books and seminars).

One of the chapters which grabbed my attention was the one about the questions we ask ourselves.  He suggests that everything we do is triggered by a question.  From the moment we wake up in the morning to the moment we go to bed we are asking ourselves questions, “Is it that time already?”, “What shall I have for breakfast?”, “How bad is the traffic going to be today?” and so on.  Even if we don’t consciously ask the question everything starts with a question.  Robbins says that our unconscious mind will ALWAYS find an answer to any question we ask.  Interestingly the unconscious mind is not bothered by the truth; it will find an answer even if it’s not true.

Robbins says “the quality of our outcome is determined by the quality of our questions”.  So, if our unconscious mind answers any question we ask of it, then we must think about the type of questions we are asking.  If you ask a bad question, you will get a bad answer.  For example, have you ever found yourself in a situation you don’t want to be in and asked “Why is this happening to me?”

“Why have I put on weight?”
“Why can’t I get an interview?”
“Why is our money situation so bad?”
“Why is my relationship so awful?”
“Why won’t my children listen to me?”

Does that sound familiar?  Your unconscious mind WILL come up with an answer and it will find the first answer that fits the question:

“Because you eat too much and you are lazy”
“Because you’re no good”
“Because you are rubbish at saving”
“Because you don’t deserve anything better”
“Because no one respects you”

Does this sound like you?  Do you tell yourself you are no good or lazy or “No wonder?”  Your subconscious mind is simply answering your questions.

The good news is there is another way.  In using the word “Why” in your language you are externalising everything, allowing yourself to think that you have no responsibility for your actions, that life just happens to you and you have no control over it.

By choosing a better question your unconscious mind can find a more resourceful answer.

Start using the words “How” or “What” on a regular basis and you begin to take responsibility for your life and your actions.  Possibilities to turn things around, to fix the problem, to change the circumstances begin to open up for you.  Your mind begins to assume there must be a way.   So, as the unconscious mind will always come up with an answer, it will begin to go to work.  It may not answer the question immediately but it WILL find the answer eventually.

“How can I fix this?”
“What can I do to turn this around?”
“How can I improve my relationships?”
“How can I lose weight?”
“What sport can I do which I will enjoy?”
“What do I need to do to improve my CV?”
“How can I achieve my goals?”
“How can we improve our finances?”
“What needs to happen so we can save more money?”

So give it a go.  Test out the theory.  It really works.  Start asking yourself better questions and see what kind of answers start coming up.  Remember to be patient as the answers don’t always come straight away (the unconscious mind sometimes needs a bit of time) but trust that the answer is there and it will become clear to you.  You may meet someone who has experience in your type of business, you may hear a snippet on the radio that strikes a chord with you or you may see an advert or article that helps you to see the path.  Just remember that ‘The quality of our lives is governed by the quality of the questions we ask ourselves’ and then start to improve your questions.

Have a great weekend

Megan x